18 Signs Something is Happening
Since discovering Rejoice Marriage Ministries, I have been on the daily email list to receive their devotionals. This one I read to a friend and she commented that this needs to be posted all over — so here it is. This is from the “Charlene Cares” devotional.
Tuesday’s “The Prodigal’s Pen” is written from Bob who was a
prodigal who returned home and was remarried to me for 23 years. Bob
has written 19 books for more than two decades after our divorce and
remarriage. Today I have selected a devotional that I believe will
have you examine your heart as you seek the Lord asking Him
questions about your spouse coming home. – Charlyne
18 Signs That Something Is Happening! –
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the
rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark
world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly
realms. Ephesians 6:12
During my prodigal days, while we were divorced, I heard a pastor
make a sermon statement that has stuck with me to this day; “If you
were able to see the spiritual battle that is taking place all
around you, it would scare you to death.” My spiritual eyes were not
yet opened, so I could not fully understand what that respected man
of God was saying, but nevertheless, I remembered.
Since standing with God for marriage restoration is a spiritual
battle, you may not recognize the back and forth of Satan’s ways, as
God’s will is being performed. I want to share with you some of the
ways that you can know something is happening in the heavenly realms.
It is not necessary for all eighteen ways to be seen for your spouse
to be brought home, nor will they happen in any specific order. You
may even see your prodigal coming up the walk before you see any of
these signs, but most likely some of these things will be happening:
* You feel like giving up. “Nothing’s happening and nothing will
ever change.” The Enemy has you thinking these thoughts.
* You start to sense an increased burden for your prodigal’s soul.
The restoration of your marriage does not seem nearly as important
as where your beloved will spend eternity.
* The Lord burdens you to pray for your husband or wife at the
strangest times. For some people, God awakens them during the night
* Satan sends a counterfeit into your life. Just when things are the
bleakest, Mr. Right or Miss Perfect arrives. Some standers make the
mistake of thinking, “This must be of God because we are so
perfectly suited for each other.” Counterfeits always look better
than the real thing.
* People are constantly reminding you about your mate’s free will,
and how you have grounds for divorce.
* People tell you that God wants you to be “happy.” In truth, God is
a lot more concerned about your holiness than He is about your
happiness. He also cares about your mate’s lost condition.
* You can see no way out of specific circumstances, such as
financial problems. Remember, God works best when nothing else will.
* You are tempted to take off your wedding ring.
* You find scripture that seems to have been written just for you.
The Word speaks to your heart and to your needs.
* Some of the actions of your prodigal spouse are unexplainable. For
example, I repeatedly asked Charlyne to stop praying for me. I just
knew the conviction that I was under came as a result of her prayers.
* The Enemy can even use your family members to dissuade you when
the spiritual battle is the hottest. An older teen says, “If he/she
is allowed back, I am going.” Your parents may become dead set
against restoration. Do not allow this to discourage you. Over the
years, we have been witnesses time and time again of God restoring
family relationships as well as marriages.
* You mistakenly start to view your local church as a hindrance to
restoration. Satan may give you fear over how your returned prodigal
would fit in. Your pastor may come out against marriage restoration.
The returned spouse/church relationship is one of the many areas
that God can and does heal for restoring families. Right now, you
need the love and support of a church family.
* Prayer partners may be removed. There came a time in Charlyne’s
stand, near the day of our remarriage and before the Internet, when
my wife’s personal prayer partner moved out of state. God was
telling my wife that she needed to depend on Him, and not others.
* Major changes in your prodigal mate’s life are happening, For
some, this is a new job. For others, it is relocation to a distant
state, making restoration seem even more impossible. There may be
the attempted legalizing of adultery through a marriage license, or
a non- covenant child is born to your spouse.
* You are tempted to make major changes in your own life. It could
be reclaiming your maiden name, or changing the door locks on your
home for no reason. Whatever you are considering doing, it would be
something to say to your prodigal spouse, “It’s over!”
* You sense a certain uneasiness in your spirit. Where you had once
started growing in the Lord as a stander, you now feel something
indescribable in your life. Some people confuse God wanting them to
intensify their stand with Him, with God wanting them to give up on
their stand for a healed home.
* You can forgive your prodigal spouse, even to the extent that you
have pity for them, for how deceived they are, and for the
situations they are in.
* Your prodigal makes false starts toward home, or toward family
events, and then just as suddenly withdraws or backs out.
Do you get it? Some of these signs are negative and some are
positive. Together, they allow you to catch a glimpse of the battle
that is raging in the heavenlies. This battle is for much more than
your marriage. It is for your prodigal’s eternal soul, and for
future generations of your family.
The number one mistake that men and women praying for marriage
restoration make is attempting to do spiritual battle with earthly
weapons, based on earthly reasoning. They do not understand that
spiritual battles, such as the one they are in, can by won only by
using spiritual weapons. They use the courts instead of compassion,
seeking revenge instead of restoration. They want to heap guilt on
the absent spouse instead of grace. Instead of covering their
prodigal’s nakedness and shame, they want to broadcast it. Walking
with Jesus, they become better. Walking in the world’s way, they
will only become bitter.
The change we see in successful standers is amazing. The information
sheet sent back to us by new standers is often filled with writings
of circumstances, and how sinful their mate has become. Often they
share what they intend to do about the circumstances.
Future correspondence from that person tracks a change. Somewhere
along the way to marriage restoration, the spiritual lights come on,
and the stander realizes they are in a spiritual battle. They start
to do war against the Enemy, and not against their spouse. The may
have their ups and downs, but overall, a steady growth in the things
of God is noted until their prodigal comes home to both them and to
their Lord. May you stand strong until that grand day.
As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins, in
which you used to live when you followed the ways of this world
and of the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now
at work in those who are disobedient. All of us also lived among
them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our sinful nature and
following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by
nature objects of wrath. But because of his great love for us,
God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we
were dead in transgressions – it is by grace you have been saved.
Because He Lives,
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