18 Signs Something is Happening

Since discovering Rejoice Marriage Ministries, I have been on the daily email list to receive their devotionals.  This one I read to a friend and she commented that this needs to be posted all over — so here it is.  This is from the “Charlene Cares” devotional.


Tuesday’s “The Prodigal’s Pen” is written from Bob who was a

prodigal who returned home and was remarried to me for 23 years. Bob

has written 19 books for more than two decades after our divorce and

remarriage. Today I have selected a devotional that I believe will

have you examine your heart as you seek the Lord asking Him

questions about your spouse coming home. – Charlyne


18 Signs That Something Is Happening! –

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the

rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark

world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly

realms. Ephesians 6:12

During my prodigal days, while we were divorced, I heard a pastor

make a sermon statement that has stuck with me to this day; “If you

were able to see the spiritual battle that is taking place all

around you, it would scare you to death.” My spiritual eyes were not

yet opened, so I could not fully understand what that respected man

of God was saying, but nevertheless, I remembered.

Since standing with God for marriage restoration is a spiritual

battle, you may not recognize the back and forth of Satan’s ways, as

God’s will is being performed. I want to share with you some of the

ways that you can know something is happening in the heavenly realms.

It is not necessary for all eighteen ways to be seen for your spouse

to be brought home, nor will they happen in any specific order. You

may even see your prodigal coming up the walk before you see any of

these signs, but most likely some of these things will be happening:

* You feel like giving up. “Nothing’s happening and nothing will

ever change.” The Enemy has you thinking these thoughts.

* You start to sense an increased burden for your prodigal’s soul.

The restoration of your marriage does not seem nearly as important

as where your beloved will spend eternity.

* The Lord burdens you to pray for your husband or wife at the

strangest times. For some people, God awakens them during the night

to pray.

* Satan sends a counterfeit into your life. Just when things are the

bleakest, Mr. Right or Miss Perfect arrives. Some standers make the

mistake of thinking, “This must be of God because we are so

perfectly suited for each other.” Counterfeits always look better

than the real thing.

* People are constantly reminding you about your mate’s free will,

and how you have grounds for divorce.

* People tell you that God wants you to be “happy.” In truth, God is

a lot more concerned about your holiness than He is about your

happiness. He also cares about your mate’s lost condition.

* You can see no way out of specific circumstances, such as

financial problems. Remember, God works best when nothing else will.

* You are tempted to take off your wedding ring.

* You find scripture that seems to have been written just for you.

The Word speaks to your heart and to your needs.

* Some of the actions of your prodigal spouse are unexplainable. For

example, I repeatedly asked Charlyne to stop praying for me. I just

knew the conviction that I was under came as a result of her prayers.

* The Enemy can even use your family members to dissuade you when

the spiritual battle is the hottest. An older teen says, “If he/she

is allowed back, I am going.” Your parents may become dead set

against restoration. Do not allow this to discourage you. Over the

years, we have been witnesses time and time again of God restoring

family relationships as well as marriages.

* You mistakenly start to view your local church as a hindrance to

restoration. Satan may give you fear over how your returned prodigal

would fit in. Your pastor may come out against marriage restoration.

The returned spouse/church relationship is one of the many areas

that God can and does heal for restoring families. Right now, you

need the love and support of a church family.

* Prayer partners may be removed. There came a time in Charlyne’s

stand, near the day of our remarriage and before the Internet, when

my wife’s personal prayer partner moved out of state. God was

telling my wife that she needed to depend on Him, and not others.

* Major changes in your prodigal mate’s life are happening, For

some, this is a new job. For others, it is relocation to a distant

state, making restoration seem even more impossible. There may be

the attempted legalizing of adultery through a marriage license, or

a non- covenant child is born to your spouse.

* You are tempted to make major changes in your own life. It could

be reclaiming your maiden name, or changing the door locks on your

home for no reason. Whatever you are considering doing, it would be

something to say to your prodigal spouse, “It’s over!”

* You sense a certain uneasiness in your spirit. Where you had once

started growing in the Lord as a stander, you now feel something

indescribable in your life. Some people confuse God wanting them to

intensify their stand with Him, with God wanting them to give up on

their stand for a healed home.

* You can forgive your prodigal spouse, even to the extent that you

have pity for them, for how deceived they are, and for the

situations they are in.

* Your prodigal makes false starts toward home, or toward family

events, and then just as suddenly withdraws or backs out.

Do you get it? Some of these signs are negative and some are

positive. Together, they allow you to catch a glimpse of the battle

that is raging in the heavenlies. This battle is for much more than

your marriage. It is for your prodigal’s eternal soul, and for

future generations of your family.

The number one mistake that men and women praying for marriage

restoration make is attempting to do spiritual battle with earthly

weapons, based on earthly reasoning. They do not understand that

spiritual battles, such as the one they are in, can by won only by

using spiritual weapons. They use the courts instead of compassion,

seeking revenge instead of restoration. They want to heap guilt on

the absent spouse instead of grace. Instead of covering their

prodigal’s nakedness and shame, they want to broadcast it. Walking

with Jesus, they become better. Walking in the world’s way, they

will only become bitter.

The change we see in successful standers is amazing. The information

sheet sent back to us by new standers is often filled with writings

of circumstances, and how sinful their mate has become. Often they

share what they intend to do about the circumstances.

Future correspondence from that person tracks a change. Somewhere

along the way to marriage restoration, the spiritual lights come on,

and the stander realizes they are in a spiritual battle. They start

to do war against the Enemy, and not against their spouse. The may

have their ups and downs, but overall, a steady growth in the things

of God is noted until their prodigal comes home to both them and to

their Lord. May you stand strong until that grand day.

As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins, in

which you used to live when you followed the ways of this world

and of the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now

at work in those who are disobedient. All of us also lived among

them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our sinful nature and

following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by

nature objects of wrath. But because of his great love for us,

God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we

were dead in transgressions – it is by grace you have been saved.

Ephesians 2:1-5

Because He Lives,

Bob Steinkamp

Rejoice Marriage Ministries, Inc.

Post Office Box 10548

Pompano Beach, FL 33061 USA

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